My soul, wait only upon God and silently submit to Him; for my hope and expectation are from Him.

-Psalm 62:5

Most times in life our growth and progression are directly tied to the decision of one single person. That person’s yes or no determines if we get the job, if we get a raise, whether we get the loan to start a business, if we remain a girlfriend or become a wife, or whether we sale our products or run void of our investment. This can leave us feeling helpless and out of control. We all want to have control over our destiny and destiny gets frustrating when we’re looking to other people for approval to live out the shiny visions that play over and over in our heads. And let’s face it; people are hard to please! Jill Scott, put it so eloquently honest when she sang these words…

“Ooh, if I gave you peaches outta my own garden

And I made you a peach pie, would you slap me high?

Wonder if I gave you diamonds out of my own womb

Would you feel the love in that or ask why not the moon?”

I’m sure many of us can relate to that right there. But this is life and we can’t lock ourselves away in a world void of people, and rejection. But what we can do is change our perspective so that we don’t give up on our dreams in the process.

When we live to please God and not man we set the atmosphere for Him to be glorified in our life. Instead of working hard to get recognition from someone, work hard in an effort to show God that you’re ready for the blessing you’ve been praying for. Talk to Him honestly about what you may be struggling with and ask for help in the areas that you feel are slowing you down. Do all that you can and allow God to handle the rest. I have often made the mistake of thinking that things didn’t work for me because I did something wrong. That wrong could have been not approaching someone in the wrong way, not giving more of myself (though I knew I had depleted all of my physical and emotional energy), or even something as petty as enjoying my beloved Hip Hop just a little too much. Yes, I’m a Hip Hop kind of girl but not an up in the club, buying bottles, freak um dress with no brain just thighs kind of girl. More of a Common Sense, The Roots, Lauryn Hill and the Fugees kind of girl. Big Difference!! But back to what I was saying. I would directly correlate my disappointment with some imaginary mistake that I made, and that kind of thinking kept me in bondage. Instead of trusting God to bring things together in my life, I placed all the burden on myself to be perfect and in case you haven’t noticed, perfection isn’t real. Regardless of how perfectly, flawlessly awesome someone thinks you are, in another person’s eyes you’re going to be the perfect example of crappy, wrong, infuriating existence. There’s nothing you can do about it so just get over it now and save yourself the years of emotional strain.  Just do the best you can and God’s Grace is sufficient for the areas that lack in development. He is so powerful and so loving! The blessings that come to us are often times not because we deserve them but because He wants us to be happy and live in abundance. Believe in your heart that the same Blessings that come to others are available for you too, in a way that authentically fits your personality, passion, purpose and unique circumstances.

I can honestly say that when I started focusing on relationship with God and including Him in my day to day decision making, frustrations, and musings, He began to move mountains for me and open doors that I couldn’t open for myself. My trust and Faith are in Him and not my own superficial abilities. I look to Him for every need to be met. I’m not afraid of people’s no’s because I understand that if its meant for me to have it, God will blaze a way for it to happen one way or another. If it’s not for me then He will direct me to the path where I can live in truth, fullness and Divine Intervention.

Scripture:

 My soul, wait only upon God and silently submit to Him; for my hope and expectation are from Him.

-Psalm 62:5

Confession/Affirmation:

I walk in the fullness of God. I have everything I need to be happy, whole and successful already inside of me. Through relationship with God, I have obtained his Favor and Direction in every area of my life.